In an ideal world, if you are married, that means that you have a great life and you are totally happy in all aspects of said life. You have a loving partner who supports you emotionally in everything you do, and the two of you are taking the ups and downs of life as they come, together as a team.
the real world isn’t always like that, and to be frank, is quite often not like
that when it comes to married couples. Yes at first, you may feel like
everything is perfect for you and your spouse, but in reality, things can go
downhill rather quickly.
like any relationship, marriages can go stale over time. But when you are
married, it is your job to stay married and to make the marriage work for the
rest of your lives. But just how do you keep your marriage from becoming stale,
especially when you have been married for decades in some cases?
to start, have sex! Although some argue that your spouse maintains a totally
unique emotional connection with you, that may not necessarily be the case if
you have particularly close family and friends that you can rely on. However,
there is no argument that your spouse is the only person that you can have sex
with. So take advantage of it. By having sex with your spouse, you not only
show them that you care about them, but that they have a special place in your
heart, simply due to the fact that you cannot have sex with anyone else but
you, and you are taking full advantage of it.
top of that, spend time with each other just asking about each other’s days. It
may seem simple on the surface, but doing this is a great way to re-establish
the emotional connection that drew you the two of you together in the first
place. And it also reinforces the fact that you actually care about each other,
so much so that you are willing to listen about something that happened on your
way to get coffee in the morning, or whatever the case may be.
thing that you should do is to simply go on dates again! After you’ve been
married for years on end, it is not hard to imagine that you have replaced your
typical date nights, with a night at home eating dinner, watching TV and going
to bed early for work the next day. Now some couples can definitely turn this “night
in” into a date night of sorts, but take the extra effort to go out and do a
more stereotypical date night with your loved one.
of these ideas may seem relatively small on the surface, but the fact is that
they take a concerted effort to make happen. And making that effort is precisely
what reinvigorates your marriage, more so than the actions themselves. So just show
your spouse how much effort you are putting in to make the marriage work on a
daily basis and you will easily find yourself in a naturally loving marriage that
lasts a lifetime!